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  1. cherub

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    School/College

    Some of the hardest people to come out to are peers, we all want to be accepted - how did your mates take it?

    I go to an all boys school but actually I was amazingly impressed at how everyone took it, there was one guy who decided to ask mid French lesson whether I was top or bottom, but his friends soon shut him up. Other than that noone has really bothered about it, if it comes up in conversation then that's just convo, and occasionally there are a few jokes, but I'll be the one to start most of them.

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  2. Mikey

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    School and College - well I came out at the end of school, State school is going to be infinitely harder that public school - a generalisation I know however an accurate one. I have friends at public school who have no issues, and people I know from state school who'd spit on me as soon as look at me! College was fantastic though, no-one cared!

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    Samuel

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    I agree, School was living hell in ways, I came out part way through year 11... regret it? Yes and no... but it was like I had declared my self an outcast and laughing stock from some peoples perspectives.

    College? Who cares!!

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  4. cherub

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    Didn't your school have quite a few people who had come out before you?

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  5. Mikey

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    I'm assuming Samuel's school here! lol

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    Samuel

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    No. There was only two who were public about it... they (seemed) to get away with it better than me lol!

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  7. cherub

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    *feels need to make a sarcasm comment* - sadly none spring to mind :(

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  8. Jamie Gray

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    Re: School/College

    Not sure how people would respond to trans stuff at my college, I might be OK because I kept my head down in first year, so second year might be fine.
    I know that being pansexual hasn't really come up, but I'm far enough under the radar not to make gossip.

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  9. Shauny_shane

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    Well Well Well, what can I say about comming out at school, be prepeared for a long message on this as I have a long story....

    All of my school life I have been bullied, for no reason twice because of beeing gay, the first time, when I was in jounior school, I wasn't sure if I was or not, and that passed quickly.

    The second time was during year 11 and GCSEs, two of my friends knew already and they were fine with it, but I made the up most terrible misstake of texting a friend of mine, why I don't know, saying that I thought he was hot and I wanted him, and that went round the whole school, and then i was called names, had the mick taken out off, and I got to the point of bunking school, I almost walked out once, the teachers knew and did nothing, but I was off school for about a week and when I went back it had died down and there were some friends that spoke to me again, saying that they had to go along with it as they didn't want to get bullied, understandable, and a couple of the girls said they stood up for me, so things got back to normal. I finished my GCSEs with really bad grades, all D-Gs.

    College was somewhat better, did get some micky taking but only from the really in-mature students, which from school I toughened up and I didn't let it get to me.

    Since then, at work, etc I've had no trouble, or if there is it don't get me down like it did in school. I'm now 20 and more confident then what I was in school. so I suppose that it help me in a way, but if I could change what happend I would do.

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  10. Jamie Gray

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    How would you change it? Would you just not send that text, or out yourself sooner, or later, or what?

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    steffany4lyfe

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    Well my first secondary school I had to leave because of extreme bullying, but that wasn't to do with being gay, that was because....well to be honest them lot where a load of nutters.
    However in my new school when I came out, everyone was great! I get the odd "So how DO you do it with a girl?" Which I don't take offensively I take it as curiousity and in a way shows that sex ed is all geared for steight couples, which really annoys me!
    ANYWAY.
    Only two people in my new school have every said anything about the fact I'm gay; Zoe a girl in my tutor who found out from someone round the school goodness knows who and came up to me to ask if it was true, when I said yes I think more out of shock she said "eurgh thats gross!" but on doing this my friends and a load of people I didn't even know suddenly jumped her and where screaming "STEFF'S WELL ALRIGHT LEAVE IT OUT!" I was quite shocked by that but was almost like wow that pretty cool at the same time. The next person to say anything.....well alot of things was my ex boyfriend, he had been pretty bitter about our brake up anyway (especially when I got so annoyed with him I threatened to put my ciggie in his eye) but when he found out I was gay he went a little bit loopy. First telling a lot of people when at which point I wasn't ready to come out and then telling the girls of the school I was stalking them and lots of other dogey stuff. Luckily well Ashton, well to be honest not many people like him and alot of people shrugged it off that he was still bitter about our brake up months back and thought him pretty pathetic. When I did come out finally at school he started again with the spreading stuff about me and other girls, and I'm sorry but at that point he went too far and so I HAD to have a raging hissy fit at him! But he then in the middle of this said personal stuff that I had told him when we had been dating and this really hit me. I've had alot of problems in the past with depression mainly from the bullying from my old school and what Ashton said spiralled me down into a new depression. But with the help of my friends and my ex-girlfriend I managed to over come that depression.
    Now I've actuly managed to talk to Ashton about my sexuality without him going scitzo on me, talking about gay pride and how mt parents reacted, I sometimes feel when he is asking me he is slightly taking the mick, but it's a start euh?
    Now the only people I get hassle off of are people from my first school who are always deturmined to find any way to get to me, but I am strong and will normally tell them to F*!%&£$ p!** off. So in genral it hasn't been too bad for me!

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  12. Shauny_shane

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    Well Jamie Gray, I just wouldn't of told anyone at my school, thats what I would change if I could. But then again if it didn't happen then I wouldn't be the person I am now....

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  13. KWells

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    First I Wanna Say I Finally Got Back On Yay Go Me :)

    And I Originally Came Out In School And That Was Not A Good Idea On My Part It Was Just A Normal Secondry School But The Bulling Was So Bad I Almost Went Mad And Left School Early Start Of Year Ten I Think Its Been So Long

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